Why LIVESTRONG?

My senior year in high school I took physics.  My teacher's name was Mr. Sanchez.  I remember that it started out easy enough - "An object in motion tends to stay in motion. An object at rest tends to stay at rest." - but it quickly became much more difficult.  Mr. Sanchez had told us that our final exam would be an essay format and that we should bring a blue book (Well, I might have that blue book thing mixed up with college, I'm not sure.  But it was definitely essay format).

Our class had spent the days before talking over what might the essay exam be for physics, with many different suggestions and opinions.  But I think it's probably fair to say, none of us were totally prepared for what Mr. Sanchez had prepared.  The essay exam consisted of a single question - "Why physics?"  I'm pretty sure I rambled on for several pages about how physics was the foundation for understanding all things in the universe.  I think one kid may have answered "Why not?"  I don't remember what I got on that exam - but I remember that moment when I was faced with that question.  "Why?" is probably the first question we ask as a kid.  With answers that never seem entirely satisfying.  And, it seems, the answers never get any easier.  "Why?" is a tough question.

Which brings me to my point (and yes I do have one).  I've done fundraisers in the past - three in fact - for The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society through their Team In Training program.  You could say this is how I got bit by the fundraising bug.  I did that first event to honor my friend and mentor John Sloan.  That first experience with TNT was so overwhelmingly positive that I wanted to do it again.  And then add to that, more people I know kept getting cancer, and so I did two more fundraisers - both with TNT.

This time I'm doing an event for LIVESTRONG.  And here comes the question: "Why LIVESTRONG?" Well, the answer to this "Why?" is actually fairly easy.  My Mom was diagnosed and treated for a rather rare form of cancer - anal cancer.  It's the same cancer that Farrah Fawcett had.  It has a rather aggressive and difficult treatment program.  But it in my Mom's case it was successful.  There's no official cancer organization affiliated with anal cancer.  So my Mom adopted LIVESTRONG as her organization.  So the answer to "Why LIVESTRONG?" is because it's the organization that represents my Mom.

LIVESTRONG actually represents many, many cancer patients, families and caregivers.  Now, I know there's been a LOT in the press recently about Lance Armstrong.  I've got my opinions, but I'm going to save them.  Because this isn't about Lance.  It's about LIVESTRONG - an organization that for 15 years has been funding programs, helping patients get access to care, and maybe most importantly, raising the collective consciousness of cancer.  I think it's fair to say that LIVESTRONG has elevated the conversation and drawn more attention to this crummy, awful disease.  And to me, that's a very good thing.

I hope you'll help me, help LIVESTRONG fight cancer.

$5 Follow Fridays

During my last fundraising event, I asked folks to help me out by spreading the word about my efforts to their friends and contacts.  The economy was pretty stinky and I figured if maybe someone felt like they couldn't afford to make a donation - or maybe couldn't donate as much as they'd like - they could still be very helpful by getting the word out to more people.  The result was that I received a number of donations from total strangers - mostly in the range of about $5.

In addition to helping me meet my fundraising goal, this was incredibly cool!  When you're doing a fundraiser, each time someone makes a donation you get an email notification.  That's pretty cool and rewarding in itself seeing these emails pop up in your inbox saying "A donation was made on your behalf!"  But imagine how it feels when that donation comes from someone you don't even know!  Are you imagining it?  How's that going?  Well, just in case, I'll tell you.  It's great!  You're out there fundraising, kind of on your own, and every donation is a vote of support which in itself is important and rewarding.  And then to get a vote of support from a total stranger - well it's like the universe is looking out for you or something.

So I got to thinking - maybe I could replicate that idea for other people so they could have the same feeling.  So I'm doing it! (I start a lot of sentences with So (a needle pulling thread!)).  And I call it:  $5 Follow Fridays!  How does it work you ask?  On to the facks!

Q: What's the big idea?
A: To help other people who are fundraising for worthy causes, I'm gonna try and drum up a little extra support by promoting their efforts to my friends and encouraging those friends to make a $5 donation to a random stranger's fundraising program. To make it easy, I'll do it every Friday.

Q: How do you find these people?
A: Most fundraising organizations have a search function on their websites.  I just sort of randomly search through various participants and pick people.

Q: Well, then how do you decide who to pick?
A: I'm glad you asked that question.  I look for two things basically.  One, that the person is an active fundraiser.  Lots of people sign up with good intentions, but then for whatever reason are unable to really commit to the fundraising process.  So I look to make sure that the person's event is concluding within a reasonable time-frame and that they actually have donations made to their effort. And two, I look for folks who look like they might need a little help.  Basically people who are below their goal - maybe way below, or just on the cusp of making their goal.

Q: What organizations are you promoting?
A: Ah, another good question (you're good at this!).  Well, I'm starting with the ones I know which is basically TNT, LIVESTRONG, SGK3D, MJF and DFP.  But I'm open to suggestions.  They just need to be reputable organizations.  So if you've got one in mind, please let me know.

Q: Didn't you sort of steal this idea from Subway and Twitter?
A: I prefer to think of it as a mashup.  I'm taking the $5 foot long, and putting it in the atom smasher with the #followfriday and voila!  #$5FF

Q: Isn't this just a desperate attempt for attention/self-promotion/self-aggrandizing/borrowed interest?
A: Have you seen Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs? I'm trying to work my way up to Self-Actualization.  I don't have any desire to be famous.  Well, ok, maybe I like being on stage a little bit.  (OK, maybe a lot.  um, this is getting uncomfortable).  I'm just trying to help other people receive a little unexpected surprise during their fundraising efforts.

Q: Wait, aren't you fundraising right now?  Won't this cut into your fundraising?
A: I dunno.  Maybe.  I don't think of it that way.  I'm just trying to help more people do more good. If someone is thinking of donating to my campaign, they can just deduct $5 and give it to one of the strangers.  What goes around comes around after all.

Q: OK, you've convinced me.  What do I need to do?
A: Just be on the lookout for a Facebook or Twitter post with the relevant info.

Good Gravy Peace is Hard!

So about two weeks ago, I embarked on a journey – a journey of soulful exploration, learning, and enlightenment.  A journey destined to change the course of my personal history forever, setting me on the path to self-actualization.

Well, not really.  I had been thinking a lot about the concept of Peace, and I thought I’d try an experiment – 30 days of Peace.  That being, 30 days where I personally try to make my world, and the world around me, more peaceful.  My strategy was as follows:

·         Remain calm in times of stress

·         Don’t over-react to external conditions, or actions or behaviors of others

·         Be nice – spread happiness (some people might say “share love” here, but that feels kind of hippy-dippy to me.  I guess I’m not totally emotionally secure yet.  But that’s the general concept I was going for).

So at the mid-point, here’s what I’ve learned – Peace is freaking hard!

It takes a lot of discipline and restraint because nearly every day there’s something that can disrupt peace. Frustrating news of the world, problems at work, sassy children, family squabbles (some of which I even initiate – shocking right?).  And that’s just me trying to maintain peace in my own little world.  I can understand why world leaders are so easily drawn into conflict.  It’s much easier – and in some ways more immediately emotionally gratifying – to engage in a dispute, argue, yell, rage and fight back, then it is trying to seek a calm, peaceful outcome.

But therein lies the dilemma.  At least for me anyway.  It’s that word – immediate.  Yes, in the moment of stress and/or conflict, it can be a natural and impulsive instinct to respond in kind – to fight fire with fire.  But inevitably, there’s remorse knowing that was the wrong reaction.  That it’s not in alignment* with my personal goals and values.

So, peace is hard. Being peaceful is hard.  You’d think a concept that is in some ways about tranquility and harmony would be easy.  Well, not for me it ain’t.**  It requires discipline, concentration, and most of all, commitment.

So, lesson learned.  I’ll keep working at it.  Like I said at the outset – it’s a journey.

*(ha, I worked a business buzz-word into my blog!)

**(intentionally reckless use of improper grammar alert)

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My Peace Reminder

A while ago I came up with this acronym to help remind me how I want to behave as a dad (and as part of my continuing efforts to find peace - ooommmmmm).  I used the first letter of each of my daughter's names...P.C.E.

Patient
Caring
Encouraging

I'm far from a perfect parent - I'd say I'm about average.  So I use this little trick to remind me of how I want to behave - especially when I'm getting a little stressed, or unsure of what to do.  This can be particularly helpful with my oldest daughter - who I tell frequently - "Every mistake I make as a parent, I make on you first."  And unfortunately, in those instances, sometimes my acronym turns out to be:

Petty
Churlish*
Erratic

Well, it's a good thing I've got that little reminder, huh?

*Look at me using vocabulary! OK. I confess, I found it on thesaurus.com

Ooh.  I just realized that if I rearrange the letters like this - PEC - it kinda looks like peace! Sweet.

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